What Do I Need More of Right Now?

Sometimes we know exactly what we need.

We’re exhausted and we need sleep. We’ve spent too much time indoors and need some fresh air. We’ve been working too hard and need a break. We’ve barely seen another adult all week and need a proper conversation with somebody we love.

Other times, it’s much harder to name.

We just know that something feels slightly off.

Life might be perfectly fine on paper. Nothing is particularly wrong. We’re getting through our days, doing what needs to be done, keeping things moving. And yet there can be this quiet feeling that something is missing.

Maybe life has become a little too functional. Maybe we’re constantly responding to what everybody else needs. Perhaps we’ve been so busy keeping up with responsibilities that we’ve stopped noticing what would make our own days feel better.

And sometimes, after a particularly demanding period, we become so accustomed to pushing through that we don’t even ask ourselves what we need anymore.

So this fifth reflection in The Life I’m Living Collection is a very simple one.

But I don’t think it’s necessarily an easy question.

What do I need more of right now?

Not next year.

Not in some imaginary version of your life where you have more money, more time, fewer responsibilities or completely different circumstances.

And not what you think you should need.

What do you need more of in the life you’re actually living, as it is, right now?

We’re Often Better at Knowing What Everybody Else Needs

I think many of us become incredibly good at noticing what other people need.

We know when somebody is tired. We notice when they’re quieter than usual. We recognise when they need encouragement, food, rest, company, space, reassurance or simply somebody to listen.

We anticipate.

We remember.

We adjust.

And often we do all of this without giving it very much thought.

Yet it can be surprisingly difficult to turn that same attention towards ourselves.

Perhaps that’s partly because our own needs tend to be less urgent. Nobody sends us a reminder saying we haven’t done anything purely for pleasure recently. There isn’t an alarm that goes off when we’ve gone too long without seeing a friend, being creative, spending time alone or doing something that makes us laugh.

So those things are easy to postpone.

We tell ourselves we’ll get to them when things settle down.

But ordinary life has a remarkable habit of continuing.

And sometimes the things we need aren’t going to force their way onto the calendar.

We have to notice them first.

What Do You Mean by “More”?

When we ask ourselves what we need more of, it’s tempting to immediately think in practical terms.

More time.

More sleep.

More money.

More help.

More holidays.

And perhaps those answers are completely accurate.

But I think it’s worth staying with the question for a little longer, because sometimes the first answer isn’t quite the whole answer.

Perhaps I need more time actually means:

I need some time that doesn’t already belong to somebody or something else.

Maybe I need a holiday means:

I need a break from being responsible for everything.

Perhaps I need to get out more means:

I miss having proper connection with other people.

Maybe I need to get organised really means:

I’m overwhelmed by how much I’m trying to hold together.

Perhaps I need to do something for myself means:

I can’t remember the last time I chose something simply because I enjoyed it.

And I need a change doesn’t necessarily mean we need to turn our lives upside down.

It might simply mean:

Everything has become a little too predictable and I miss feeling interested or excited by something.

Sometimes what we need becomes clearer when we look underneath the first answer.

Maybe Your Body Needs More

Sometimes our needs are very physical.

More sleep. More movement. More daylight. More nourishing food. More fresh air. More rest. More physical comfort.

Perhaps we’ve been treating our bodies as the vehicle that carries us through everything else rather than something that requires care in its own right.

And this doesn’t need to become another exercise in improving ourselves.

If you’re tired, the answer isn’t necessarily a better exercise routine, a new supplement, an elaborate morning ritual or a plan to become the healthiest version of yourself.

Maybe you’re simply tired.

Perhaps your body needs an earlier night.

A slower morning.

A proper lunch rather than whatever you can grab.

A walk because it makes you feel better.

An afternoon on the sofa without feeling you should be doing something more productive.

Sometimes what we need is remarkably ordinary.

And perhaps that’s why we overlook it.

Maybe Your Mind Needs Something Different

Our minds need different things at different times too.

Sometimes we need more quiet.

When life has been noisy, demanding or full of decisions, we might need periods when nobody is asking us anything and nothing needs to be solved.

But at other times, what we need isn’t less stimulation.

It’s more.

We might be bored.

We may need something new to learn, somewhere different to go, a book that makes us think, an interesting conversation, a project to become absorbed in or something that stretches us beyond the routines of everyday life.

I think this is important because we can become very focused on rest whenever we talk about looking after ourselves.

Rest matters enormously.

But sometimes we’re not depleted.

Sometimes we’re under-stimulated.

Sometimes the thing we’re missing is curiosity.

Challenge.

Interest.

Something to look forward to.

Something that wakes a little part of us back up.

Maybe Your Heart Needs More

Perhaps what you’re missing is connection.

A proper conversation rather than messages exchanged in between everything else.

More time with your partner.

Seeing a friend.

More laughter.

More affection.

More reassurance.

More opportunities to feel known rather than simply needed.

Or perhaps you’re surrounded by people all the time and what your heart actually wants is a little more solitude.

There isn’t a correct answer here.

One person’s more will be another person’s less.

Someone may desperately need a weekend filled with people, noise and conversation.

Someone else may be dreaming of an afternoon when nobody speaks to them at all.

Both are perfectly reasonable.

The useful question isn’t what should make us feel better.

It’s what actually does.

Maybe You Need More of Something That Is Just Yours

I think this can be particularly easy to lose.

Something that isn’t connected to work.

Isn’t useful to the household.

Isn’t for the benefit of our family.

Doesn’t need to become productive.

Doesn’t have to make money.

Doesn’t even need to be something we’re particularly good at.

Just something we enjoy.

Reading. Gardening. Painting. Baking. Swimming. Writing. Music. Crafting. Photography. Walking. Learning something. Going somewhere. Making things. Collecting things. Sitting in cafés with a book.

Whatever it happens to be.

We can become so accustomed to measuring our time according to usefulness that doing something simply because we like it begins to feel strangely indulgent.

But perhaps having something that belongs to us isn’t indulgent at all.

Perhaps it is one of the things that keeps us connected to ourselves beyond all the roles we occupy.

More Doesn’t Always Mean Adding Something

This is where the question becomes a little more complicated.

Because if you already feel stretched, the last thing you need is another list of things you’re supposed to fit into your week.

Sometimes creating more of what we need means doing less of something else.

More quiet might require less scrolling.

More rest might mean leaving something unfinished.

More connection might mean saying no to one commitment so that we can say yes to somebody we actually want to see.

More creativity might require protecting a small amount of time that would otherwise disappear into chores.

More help might mean allowing somebody else to do something differently from the way we’d do it ourselves.

More ease might mean lowering a standard somewhere.

And sometimes more space simply means deciding that not everything needs to happen.

This isn’t about squeezing additional self-care into an already overfilled life.

It’s about asking whether the way we’re currently using our time, attention and energy leaves any room for what we need too.

What If What You Need Isn’t Possible Right Now?

This matters.

Because sometimes we can identify exactly what we need and still not be able to have very much of it.

Perhaps what you really need is a long break, but you have responsibilities you cannot step away from.

Maybe you need more financial breathing room.

Perhaps you need practical support that isn’t currently available.

Maybe you desperately need uninterrupted sleep and you’re caring for someone who wakes during the night.

Perhaps you need space, but your circumstances don’t provide very much of it.

Reflection should never become another way to make ourselves feel inadequate about things we cannot change.

Recognising a need does not create an obligation to immediately meet it perfectly.

Sometimes knowing what we need simply helps us understand why we’re finding things difficult.

Of course I’m struggling a little. I haven’t had enough rest.

No wonder I feel disconnected. I’ve barely seen anyone outside work and family for weeks.

Of course I’m restless. Everything I’ve done recently has been necessary rather than enjoyable.

That understanding matters.

And perhaps, even when we can’t have what we need in the quantity we’d like, we can look for the smallest possible version of it.

Not as a substitute for a genuine need.

But as something that might help us through the season we’re in.

Look for the Smallest Version

I think this is where this reflection fits particularly well with everything we’re trying to do in The Life I’m Living Collection.

We’re not looking for dramatic transformations.

We’re looking for small, realistic adjustments.

If what you need is more time alone, perhaps the answer isn’t a weekend retreat. Maybe it’s half an hour on Sunday morning when somebody else takes over.

If you need more adventure, perhaps you don’t need to book a flight. Maybe you choose somewhere you’ve never visited and go there for the afternoon.

If you need more creativity, you don’t need to transform a room into a studio and begin producing finished work. You might simply take out something you used to enjoy.

If you need more connection, perhaps you send the message you’ve been meaning to send.

If you need more rest, perhaps one thing doesn’t get done tonight.

If you need more help, maybe the first small step is admitting that you do.

And if what you need is simply a little more fun, perhaps that’s worth taking seriously too.

Life doesn’t have to be falling apart before we’re allowed to make it feel a little better.

What Do I Need More of Right Now? — Your Free Reflection Printable

I’ve created a free printable to accompany this fifth reflection in The Life I’m Living Collection.

This page invites you to consider what you might need across several different parts of yourself.

More for My Body — rest, sleep, movement, nourishment, fresh air, physical comfort or whatever your body seems to be asking for.

More for My Mind — quiet, stimulation, learning, clarity, fewer decisions, space to think or something new to become interested in.

More for My Heart — connection, affection, friendship, laughter, reassurance, belonging or perhaps more time alone.

More for Me — creativity, hobbies, fun, beauty, adventure, solitude or something that feels as though it belongs simply to you.

You don’t need to fill every space.

You may discover that one area immediately stands out.

Or you may realise that what you need most doesn’t fit neatly into any of them.

That’s fine too.

The categories are there to help you think, not to tell you what your answer should be.

What Am I Really Asking For?

Once you’ve written down a few things, look back over your page.

Is there a pattern?

Perhaps you’ve written sleep, quiet, time alone and fewer plans.

Maybe what you’re really asking for is rest.

Perhaps you’ve written friends, conversation, going out and more laughter.

Maybe you’re missing connection.

You might have written reading, learning, travel, trying something new and getting out of the house.

Perhaps you’re craving stimulation or adventure.

Or maybe the words scattered across the page seem to say something much simpler:

I need a little more space for myself.

There doesn’t have to be a profound revelation.

We’re not trying to uncover some hidden truth that will explain our entire lives.

We’re simply listening a little more closely.

One Small Way to Make Room for More

And then comes the final part of the reflection.

Choose one thing.

Not the most impressive thing.

Not the thing you think you ought to choose.

Just something that would genuinely make life feel a little better.

Then ask:

What is one small way I could make room for more of this?

Perhaps there is something you can do today.

Perhaps it needs to wait until next week.

Perhaps you need to ask somebody for help.

Perhaps the change is not adding something at all, but stopping something else from automatically taking the space.

And perhaps, right now, all you can do is recognise the need.

That counts too.

Because noticing what we need is very different from continually pushing past it.

You Don’t Need a Different Life to Need Something Different

I think we sometimes assume that wanting more of something means being dissatisfied with what we already have.

It doesn’t.

You can love your family and need more time alone.

You can be grateful for your work and need more rest.

You can have wonderful people around you and still need something that belongs only to you.

You can enjoy the life you’ve built and want more fun in it.

You can be content and still be curious.

You can be happy and still need change.

These things can exist together.

This collection isn’t about examining our lives until we discover everything that’s wrong with them.

It’s about paying enough attention to notice what might make them feel a little more like ours.

And after spending the first few reflections looking at where we are, what fills our days, where our energy goes and what we’re carrying in our heads, perhaps this is a lovely place to finish our first little section.

With a question that isn’t about what needs fixing.

But about what might be welcomed in.

What do I need more of right now?

And perhaps, somewhere in the answer, there is one small thing we can make a little more room for.

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Continue Reflecting

Previous: What’s Taking Up Space in My Head?

Make some of the invisible mental load visible — the things you’re remembering, deciding, anticipating, worrying about and carrying for other people — and consider what you might be able to put down.

Next: What Do I Want Less of in My Life?

In the next reflection, we’ll begin a new section of The Life I’m Living Collection by looking at the other side of the question: not what we need to add, but what might be taking up more space than we want to give it.

Explore The Life I’m Living Collection

The Life I’m Living is a collection of thoughtful reflections and free printables designed to help you slow down, take stock of where you are and make small, meaningful adjustments to the life you’re already living.

Chat soon,

Ciara x

Printable FAQs

Is this printable free?

Yes. All of the reflection pages in The Life I’m Living Collection are free to download for personal use. You can print just the pages that speak to you, or work your way through the complete collection over time.

What size are the printables?

The printables are designed primarily for A4 paper, which is the standard paper size used in Ireland, the UK and many other countries. If you’re printing on US Letter paper, select Fit to Page or your printer’s equivalent setting and the design should resize neatly to fit.

Occasionally, a reflection may work better in landscape format. Where this is the case, it will be clearly indicated on the individual printable.

Do I need to complete the collection in order?

Not at all. The Life I’m Living Collection has been thoughtfully arranged so that the reflections can naturally lead from one to another, but there is no right way to use it.

You can begin with the question that feels most relevant to you today, move through the collection in order, or simply return to individual pages whenever you need them.

Do I need to answer every question?

No. These pages are invitations rather than assignments.

Some prompts may immediately give you something to write about, while others may not feel particularly relevant to the season of life you’re in. Write a sentence, fill a page, leave something blank or come back to it another day.

There is nothing to complete and no score to achieve.

Can I use the printables as journal prompts instead?

Absolutely. You don’t have to write directly onto the printable. You can use any of the questions or prompts as starting points for longer reflections in your own notebook or journal.

You might also find that one small question gives you far more to think about than the space provided on the page. Follow it wherever it takes you.

Can I print the pages more than once?

Yes. For your own personal use, you can print the pages again whenever you’d like to revisit a reflection.

In fact, returning to some of these questions six months or a year from now could be particularly interesting. Our answers change as our lives do.

Can I put all of the printables together in a binder?

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• What Do I Need More of Right Now?
  What would make the life you’re living right now feel a little better? This gentle reflection invites you to consider what you need more of — for your body, mind, heart and yourself — and to look beneath the first answer to what you may really be asking for. Includes a beautiful free reflection printable from The Life I’m Living Collection.
• What’s Taking Up Space in My Head?
  Sometimes what makes life feel overwhelming isn’t only how much we’re doing, but how much we’re trying to remember, anticipate, decide, solve and carry at the same time. This gentle reflection explores the invisible mental load of ordinary life and includes a beautiful free brain dump printable to help you put some of it down.
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