When the Days Feel Like Themselves Again

Last night, at around half past eight, I found myself sitting alone on the couch in my pyjamas, freshly showered, with my feet tucked under a heated blanket. The house was unusually quiet. My husband and the kids had gone to the cinema, the kitchen had finally been put back together after what felt like an entire afternoon of cooking, and my legs were gently reminding me that I had walked rather more hills that morning than they were accustomed to.

I was tired. Properly tired, actually. Tomorrow’s alarm was set for six, and I already suspected I might regret quite how much I had packed into the previous two days.

And yet, sitting there in the quiet, I kept thinking what an absolutely lovely weekend it had been.

Nothing particularly exciting had happened. We hadn’t gone away. There had been no big occasion, no elaborate plans, nothing that would ordinarily warrant marking the weekend out as special.

It had simply felt like a weekend.

And I think that might be one of my favourite things about this time of year.

When Friday Feels Like Friday

I love summer. I love the freedom of it, particularly during the school holidays when the usual shape of our week begins to disappear. Meals get later, bedtimes shift, plans are made because the weather is good rather than because the calendar says Saturday. A Tuesday can feel remarkably like a Sunday, and occasionally somebody has to ask what day it actually is.

I wouldn’t want summer to be any other way. There’s something wonderfully freeing about allowing the normal structure of life to loosen for a while.

But I’ve realised there is something equally lovely about getting it back.

Last week had been a busy one in our house. My husband had been travelling with work, the inevitable back-to-school bugs had arrived, and by Friday everyone seemed ready for the week to be over.

By late afternoon we were all home. Outside, it was wet and drizzly and beginning to get dark surprisingly early. Inside, I switched on the lamps, lit the candles and fairy lights and made the house as cosy as I could. It was still too warm for the fire, although I was very tempted, so we opened a lovely bottle of wine instead.

I knew one of our neighbours was home alone for the weekend, so she came over for a couple of hours. We sat and chatted and caught up, and by ten or half ten I was tucked up in bed.

There was nothing remarkable about any of it, but it felt so unmistakably like Friday night.

I’ve always loved Fridays, and I tend to protect Friday evenings if I can. Unless we have somewhere we really need to be, I like them at home. There is something about everybody arriving at the end of their respective week, closing the door behind them and collectively deciding that we’re done now. The obligations of the week loosen their grip a little, the lamps go on, and the weekend begins.

Perhaps Friday only feels quite so good because Monday to Thursday have felt like Monday to Thursday.

Maybe we need the contrast.

The Lovely Ordinary Shape of a Weekend

Saturday had its own familiar rhythm: food shopping, laundry, cleaning, cooking, jobs in the garden and some of the garden furniture being put away for another year. We went to Mass in the evening and came home to watch Strictly Come Dancing.

It was busy and productive and deeply domestic, but there was something enormously satisfying about it too. The little jobs that accumulate during a busy week were being put to rights, nobody was rushing anywhere particularly exciting, and the house seemed to be settling back into its autumn rhythm along with us.

Sunday felt different again.

I’d been thinking all weekend about going for a proper walk. I’d been writing recently about some of the beautiful places close to home and suddenly realised that I hadn’t been to Ardgillan Demesne all summer. Usually I’m there regularly, but somehow months had passed without a visit.

So after dropping our daughter to the stables on Sunday morning, my husband, our eldest and I headed there.

It was glorious.

We took the long perimeter walk around the demesne, through woodland and open fields, with glimpses of the sea and the castle along the way. Autumn had arrived in some parts and barely touched others. Some of the trees were already turning beautiful shades of red, gold and yellow, while elsewhere everything was still surprisingly green. Blackberries grew along the paths, alongside rosehips and elderberries.

The sky was clear and blue when we set off. It was around 13 degrees then, climbing towards 18 later in the day, and it was that almost perfect temperature for walking: warm enough to be comfortable but cool enough to keep up a good pace without feeling as though you might melt.

And then there was the hill.

There is a particularly steep hill towards the end of that walk which never seems to become any less steep, no matter how many times I do it. My legs are still quite aware of its existence this morning.

As we walked, though, I kept remembering all the Sunday mornings we’d spent there when the children were small. We’d arrive early, they’d play in the wonderful playground or come along with dolls and little buggies, and we’d wander around the grounds with nowhere particularly urgent to be.

Yesterday I was walking those same paths with our eldest beside us, almost grown.

There was something rather lovely about that. The years have moved on. Our Sundays look different now. We don’t need to stop at the playground anymore, and nobody is pushing a doll in a toy buggy along the paths.

But here we were.

Still walking the same paths together.

The Pleasure of Coming Home

When we got home, the sun was streaming into the kitchen. I opened the big sliding doors and let the fresh air pour in while my husband went outside to cut the grass, which desperately needed doing, and I started making Sunday dinner.

The ham had been quietly cooking in the slow cooker since seven that morning. I put a turkey crown into the oven and then just kept going: roast potatoes, mashed potatoes, carrots, green beans and Yorkshire puddings from scratch. I even made puff pastry cinnamon swirls for dessert.

Now, I should probably clarify that I am not somebody who believes every Sunday should involve spending hours standing at a cooker. I enjoy cooking for my family, but I am equally capable of reaching five o’clock on a weekday and wondering why these people need to be fed again.

But yesterday I thoroughly enjoyed it.

The doors were wide open. The sun was shining into the kitchen. Outside, I could hear the lawnmower and smell freshly cut grass. Everybody was home, happily doing their own thing, and for those few hours there was nowhere else I needed to be.

So I cooked.

By the time everything was ready, my feet were killing me. I’d spent the morning walking and most of the afternoon standing in the kitchen, and I was very ready to sit down.

Then we all gathered around the table and ate together.

It was exactly the sort of Sunday dinner I find myself craving again when autumn comes around.

Not because there’s anything particularly remarkable about roast potatoes or Yorkshire puddings, but because the whole ritual of it seems to belong to this part of the year: coming home hungry after being outside, something slowly cooking in the oven, everyone drifting towards the kitchen when dinner is nearly ready, and eventually sitting down together.

Perhaps What I Miss Is Rhythm

I’ve been thinking about why such an ordinary weekend left me feeling so content, and I think it comes back to rhythm.

We talk an awful lot about routines these days. Morning routines, evening routines, Sunday reset routines, productivity routines, and all the things we’re apparently supposed to accomplish before six in the morning if we’d like to become extraordinarily successful before breakfast.

I’m not sure I need another routine.

But I do think I need rhythm.

There is a difference, at least in my mind. A routine can sometimes feel like something we impose upon ourselves, another collection of things to remember or complete. Rhythm feels softer. It changes according to where we are, what our families need and even what season we’re living through.

During summer, the rhythm of our family life becomes loose. School disappears from the calendar. Days stretch into one another. We eat outside when the weather allows. We stay up later. We go away. We make plans and change them again. For a while, the days don’t need particularly strong identities.

Christmas brings another little pocket of that too, particularly those lovely days when everyone is home and you genuinely have to check whether it’s Wednesday or Saturday.

I love those times.

But I wouldn’t want every part of the year to feel that way.

Eventually I find myself craving the shape of the week again. I want Monday to be Monday. I want Friday to carry that tiny sense of anticipation. I like Saturday having its practical jobs and familiar pleasures, and Sunday moving at a slightly different pace again.

Perhaps part of the pleasure of letting routine go is knowing that eventually we get to come home to it.

And perhaps this is part of what seasonal living means to me too. It isn’t only noticing what’s growing outside, changing the food we cook or making our homes feel a little different as the months move on. It’s allowing the rhythm of ordinary life to change with them.

Summer doesn’t need to behave like autumn.

Autumn doesn’t need to feel like Christmas.

There is a time for days that blur beautifully into one another, and there is a time for finding their edges again.

Tired Isn’t Always the Same as Depleted

By Sunday evening, I was exhausted. I’d been up earlier than I’d intended, walked for miles, climbed that ridiculous hill and then spent hours standing in the kitchen.

It wasn’t exactly a weekend of lying around doing nothing.

But I didn’t feel depleted.

And perhaps that’s another distinction worth noticing.

Rest doesn’t always mean doing nothing. Sometimes the things that restore us are surprisingly active: a long walk, cooking something slowly, working in the garden, talking to a friend, sitting around a table with the people we love.

Sometimes it’s simply doing the ordinary things that make life feel more like our own life.

I’ve certainly had weekends when I’ve done very little and still arrived at Sunday evening feeling flat and drained. And then there are weekends like this one, full and busy and ordinary, when my body is tired but something else feels replenished.

Maybe restoration has less to do with how much energy we’ve spent and more to do with whether we’ve spent some of it on the things that make us feel grounded in our own lives.

I think that’s how I felt last night.

Tired, yes.

But very content.

When the Days Feel Like Themselves Again

So I stayed home.

Everyone else headed off to the cinema, and I had a long shower, put on my pyjamas and curled up on the couch with my heated blanket.

I knew my alarm would be going off at six this morning. I knew there would be school lunches and laundry and floors to wash, animals to look after and work waiting for me. There would be places to go, people needing lifts and all the ordinary things that give a Monday its particular Monday-ness.

And strangely, I didn’t mind.

Because I’d had my weekend.

Not in the sense that I’d squeezed every possible thing out of it or made every hour count. Quite the opposite.

I’d simply been in it.

Friday had felt like Friday. Saturday had settled into its familiar domestic rhythm. Sunday had been a walk, a long dinner, tired legs and eventually a quiet evening on the couch.

And now Monday could be Monday.

I will always love those parts of the year when the days blur around the edges and nobody is entirely sure what day it is. There is freedom in that, and I wouldn’t give it up.

But I love this too.

The quiet reassurance of the week finding its shape again. The return of familiar rituals. The pleasure of looking forward to Friday precisely because it isn’t Friday every day.

Perhaps that’s one of autumn’s quieter gifts.

Not simply the changing leaves, the candles or the cosy evenings, lovely as all of those things are, but the gentle return to rhythm.

That moment when the days begin to feel like themselves again.

And Monday can simply be Monday.

Chat soon,

Ciara x

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