Every year, somewhere around the beginning of December, I find myself thinking the same thing.

I don’t want to rush through this.

I don’t want Christmas to become a month spent preparing for a handful of days at the end of it.

I don’t want to reach Christmas Eve exhausted, surrounded by things I bought because I thought I should, having spent December moving from one list to another while telling myself that once everything was finished, then I could enjoy it.

Because, of course, everything is never finished.

There is always another present that could be bought.

Another room that could be tidied.

Another recipe that could be made.

Another invitation.

Another tradition.

Another little Christmas idea that looks lovely when somebody else does it.

And that’s before we add ordinary life.

School mornings still happen.

Teenagers need lifts.

Dinner needs making.

The dog needs walking.

There is washing in the machine.

People have appointments and work and homework and friends and plans of their own.

Christmas doesn’t replace our ordinary lives.

It arrives right in the middle of them.

And perhaps that’s where a slow and simple Christmas really begins.

Not by creating the perfect December.

But by deciding that we don’t need to.

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What Does a Slow Christmas Actually Mean?

I don’t think a slow Christmas means doing everything by hand.

It doesn’t mean making your own wrapping paper, baking every biscuit, drying your own oranges, crafting every decoration and spending December serenely arranging evergreen branches while classical Christmas music plays in the background.

You can do all of those things if you enjoy them.

I do love drying oranges and bringing greenery into the house.

But you can also buy the cake.

Use supermarket mince pies.

Order the takeaway.

Reuse last year’s wrapping paper.

Leave half the decorations in the attic.

Buy the presents online.

Say no to the Christmas event.

Slow Christmas isn’t an aesthetic.

It isn’t a particular kind of house or tree or table.

It’s not brown paper and twine.

Slow Christmas is deciding where you want your time, energy and attention to go — and being willing to let some of the rest go.

That will look different in every home.

Here are twelve principles I keep coming back to.

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1. Decide What You Actually Want From Christmas

Before making the lists, buying the presents or filling the diary, ask a different question:

What would I like Christmas to feel like this year?

Not look like.

Feel like.

Perhaps you want more evenings at home.

More family time.

More walking.

More baking.

Less shopping.

Less rushing.

Perhaps there are people you particularly want to see.

Perhaps you’ve had an exhausting year and what you really want is rest.

Perhaps you want to revive an old family tradition.

Or perhaps you’re ready to let one go.

Write down three or four things.

They become a kind of filter.

When December starts filling up, you can come back to them.

Does this thing I’m adding help create the Christmas I said I wanted?

Sometimes the answer will be yes.

Sometimes it will be a very useful no.

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It isn’t another Christmas to-do list.

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Gentle reflections and simple prompts for creating a Christmas with less rushing, less pressure and more room for what matters to you.

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You’ll find it inside the complete Christmas Companion Library alongside our Advent, Family, Traditions, Baking, Christmas Eve, Hospitality, Planning and other free Christmas collections.

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2. Don’t Confuse Simple With Unorganised

This is important.

Sometimes the things that make Christmas feel frantic aren’t the things we’re doing.

They’re the things we’re trying to remember.

Have I bought that present?

When is the school event?

What are we eating Christmas Eve?

Did I send that card?

Who is coming for dinner?

Where did I hide the present I bought in October?

Do we have enough wrapping paper?

What day am I collecting the ham?

A little organisation can actually create more spaciousness.

Write things down.

Keep one Christmas list.

Use your phone.

Use a notebook.

Use a printable.

Use whatever removes information from your head.

You don’t need a military Christmas command centre.

You just need somewhere reliable to put the things you don’t want your brain trying to remember at 3am.

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This is where the Christmas Planner Companion earns its place.

The Christmas Planner isn’t there to encourage you to organise more Christmas.

It’s there to hold the practical things — lists, plans and preparations — so they don’t take up quite so much space in your head.

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Use the pages you need.

Ignore the ones you don’t.

That’s going to be something of a theme here.

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3. Choose Fewer Things — and Enjoy Them More

Christmas can become an accumulation.

More presents.

More decorations.

More food.

More activities.

More outings.

More traditions.

More everything.

But there comes a point where adding another lovely thing makes all the lovely things harder to enjoy.

So choose.

Choose the Christmas market you really like.

The three films you genuinely want to watch.

The recipes people actually eat.

The traditions that still matter.

The people you want to spend time with.

You don’t have to fit every possible Christmas into this Christmas.

There will be another December.

Hopefully many of them.

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4. Let Family Traditions Change

This has become increasingly important to me as our children have grown.

Christmas with teenagers isn’t Christmas with small children.

And it shouldn’t have to be.

Some traditions will stay.

Others will disappear almost without anyone noticing.

And new ones will arrive.

Your teenagers may have their own plans.

They may want to see friends.

They may join you for the film but not the walk.

They may suddenly become the person who cooks something everyone loves.

They may introduce a song or film that becomes part of family Christmas for years.

We don’t need to preserve every tradition simply because we once loved it.

Keep the ones that still belong to your family.

Allow the others to have belonged beautifully to an earlier chapter.

RELATED: 12 Meaningful Christmas Traditions to Start with Teens or Grown-Up Kids

RELATED: A Simple, Slow and Intentional Advent Calendar for Families with Teenagers

And if you’re thinking about what stays and what changes, the Christmas Traditions Companion gives you somewhere to record both.

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5. Protect Some Ordinary Evenings

This might be one of the most practical things you can do.

Don’t fill every December evening.

Leave some blank.

Not because you need the blank evening to undertake a meaningful slow-living ritual.

Just leave it blank.

Make dinner.

Put the dishwasher on.

Watch television.

Read.

Let the teenagers disappear upstairs.

Fold washing.

Go to bed early.

An ordinary Tuesday evening in December does not need improving.

It can simply be Tuesday.

And those ordinary evenings give the genuinely special things room to feel special.

RELATED: Cozy Christmas Evenings Together

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6. Decorate With What You Already Love

Christmas decorating doesn’t need reinventing every year.

Bring down the boxes.

Look at what you have.

Use the things that still make you happy.

The slightly battered decoration made in primary school.

The ornaments collected on holidays.

The old candle holders.

The greenery from the garden.

The Christmas pieces that have appeared in family photographs for fifteen years.

You don’t need this year’s Christmas colour.

You don’t need a new theme.

You don’t even need to use everything you own.

Put up enough to make the house feel like Christmas.

Then stop.

If you enjoy making a few things, dried oranges, pinecones, greenery, cinnamon and simple handmade decorations are lovely precisely because the process of making them becomes part of December too.

RELATED: Natural Christmas Decorations You Can Make at Home – 15 Simple Ideas

You’ll find the Free Christmas Craft Printables | The Christmas Crafts Companion there as well.

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7. Simplify Christmas Food

Food is such an important part of Christmas in our house.

But enjoying Christmas food and spending the entire month producing it are not the same thing.

Choose the things your family genuinely loves.

Make those.

Buy some of the rest.

There is no prize for homemade cranberry sauce if making cranberry sauce makes you miserable.

Have a few easy December dinners.

Use the slow cooker.

Eat leftovers.

Keep something simple in the freezer.

Order food occasionally.

And when you do want to bake, bake because you enjoy baking.

Make the familiar thing.

Let somebody help.

Put music on.

Enjoy the kitchen.

RELATED: 15 Christmas Baking Ideas – Cookies, Cakes & Festive Treats

That post includes our free Christmas Baking Companion, with plenty of ideas for festive baking without needing to turn your kitchen into a December production line.

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8. Make Hospitality Easier

I think hospitality can become unnecessarily tangled up with entertaining.

They aren’t quite the same thing.

Hospitality is:

Come in.

I’ll put the kettle on.

Stay for dinner.

There’s plenty.

It doesn’t require a perfectly clean house.

Or an elaborate menu.

Or matching serving dishes.

If friends or family are coming, make the food you know how to make.

Set the table simply.

Ask somebody to bring dessert.

Use the nice glasses if you enjoy them.

Use the ordinary ones if you don’t care.

Light a candle.

Let people help.

The aim is not for somebody to leave thinking, What an extraordinary centrepiece.

The aim is for them to leave feeling that they were welcome.

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A Simpler Kind of Christmas Hospitality

Free Christmas Hospitality Companion

Thoughtful gathering ideas, simple planning pages and gentle inspiration for welcoming people into your home without turning hospitality into another performance.

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And if you’re having people for Christmas itself, the Christmas Table Companion and Christmas Kitchen Companion are there too.

Use them to make things easier.

Not bigger.

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9. Buy Fewer, Better Gifts

Gift giving is one of the loveliest parts of Christmas.

Gift buying can be another matter entirely.

I like the idea of fewer gifts chosen properly.

Something somebody genuinely wants.

Something useful.

Something beautiful.

An experience.

A favourite food.

Something second-hand.

Something handmade, if you actually enjoy making it.

And perhaps most importantly, decide when you’re finished.

There will always be another thing you could add.

At some point, enough needs to be enough.

Your Christmas Gift Companion can help keep ideas, purchases and wrapping organised if having them written down makes the whole thing calmer.

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10. Make Room for the Heart of Christmas

There is the Christmas we organise.

And then there is the Christmas underneath it.

The people.

The memories.

The generosity.

The people who aren’t at the table anymore.

The people who are there this year who perhaps weren’t there before.

The traditions we inherited.

The new ones we’re making without realising it.

The strange mixture of joy and nostalgia that Christmas can carry.

I think a slow Christmas leaves room for that too.

Not every part of Christmas needs to be productive or cheerful.

There can be gratitude.

Reflection.

Remembrance.

Kindness.

Quiet.

Whatever gives the season meaning in your own family.

The Heart of Christmas Companion

A quieter place within our Christmas collection for remembering what sits underneath all the lists and preparations — the people, memories, traditions, gratitude and meaning we want to carry through the season.

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This is one I wouldn’t over-explain.

Let the image and the idea breathe.

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11. Stop Trying to Make Memories

This sounds counterintuitive.

We talk constantly at Christmas about “making memories”.

And of course we want lovely experiences with the people we love.

But most of our real family memories aren’t manufactured.

They happen.

The gingerbread house collapses.

Somebody says something ridiculous at dinner.

You get caught in the rain looking at the Christmas lights.

The teenagers all end up in the kitchen at midnight.

Someone plays an old song.

The dog steals something.

A neighbour calls in.

Everybody stays at the table longer than expected.

Those moments become memories because we were there for them.

Not because they appeared on the Christmas schedule.

So make plans.

Absolutely.

But leave some gaps between them.

That’s often where life happens.

RELATED: 25 Cosy Christmas Activities for Families & Teens

That article also includes the Christmas Family Companion if you’d like a few easy ideas for things to do together without trying to programme the entire month.

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12. Let Christmas Be Imperfect

Somebody may be in bad humour.

Dinner may be late.

A present may not arrive.

The weather may ruin the plan.

Someone may be ill.

The teenagers may not react to a family tradition with quite the enthusiasm you imagined.

The house will get messy.

Something will be forgotten.

That’s Christmas too.

A slow and simple Christmas isn’t a Christmas in which nothing goes wrong.

It’s one where we’ve left enough space that every small disruption doesn’t feel catastrophic.

Change the plan.

Eat later.

Order something.

Stay home.

Laugh if you can.

Let it be imperfect.

Christmas does not need us to execute it flawlessly.

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A Slow Christmas Isn’t About Doing Less for the Sake of It

This distinction matters.

I’m not interested in making Christmas smaller simply so that we can congratulate ourselves on having a minimalist Christmas.

Some people love a busy Christmas.

Big family gatherings.

Lots of decorations.

Parties.

Christmas markets.

Cooking for twenty people.

A house full of noise.

Wonderful.

Slow living isn’t about prescribing one correct pace.

It’s about being awake enough to choose yours.

Perhaps you genuinely want the big Christmas lunch and the crowded kitchen.

Then make space for that by simplifying something else.

Perhaps you adore Christmas baking.

Bake.

Maybe you hate wrapping presents beautifully.

Use gift bags.

Perhaps your favourite part is having everyone over.

Open the door.

Maybe what you desperately need this year is three quiet days at home.

Protect them.

Simple doesn’t mean sparse.

It means enough.

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Create a Christmas That Fits the Life You’re Living Now

This is perhaps where I’ve changed most.

I don’t think we need to keep creating Christmas according to an old version of our family.

Children grow.

Parents get older.

People move.

Relationships change.

Work changes.

Energy changes.

Finances change.

Some years are easy.

Some aren’t.

The Christmas that suited your family ten years ago may not fit now.

That doesn’t mean anything has gone wrong.

We can ask:

What works for us now?

Maybe Christmas morning starts later because teenagers sleep.

Maybe everyone cooks.

Maybe Christmas Eve matters more than Christmas Day.

Maybe you travel.

Maybe you don’t.

Maybe friends become part of family traditions.

Maybe an old tradition quietly ends.

Maybe something new begins.

We aren’t failing to preserve Christmas.

We’re allowing it to live.

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Use fewer planning tools.

Yes, even mine. 😂

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There are companions for Advent, planning, baking, hospitality, traditions, family activities, crafts, movies, music, Christmas Eve and lots more. The whole point of that modular approach is that readers can mix and match the collections that suit their own Christmas, rather than having to work through one enormous planner.

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A Few Things You Have Permission Not to Do This Christmas

You don’t have to attend every invitation.

You don’t have to put up every decoration.

You don’t have to bake from scratch.

You don’t have to send Christmas cards.

You don’t have to make handmade gifts.

You don’t have to have matching Christmas pyjamas.

You don’t have to create an Advent activity every day.

You don’t have to keep a tradition nobody enjoys.

You don’t have to make Christmas Day the only day that matters.

You don’t have to spend beyond what feels comfortable.

You don’t have to make every December weekend memorable.

And you certainly don’t have to turn “slow Christmas” into another standard you’re failing to meet.

Keep what matters.

Let the rest be optional.

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More Slow & Simple Christmas Inspiration

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Before You Go…

Perhaps a slow Christmas isn’t really something we create at all.

Perhaps it’s something we make room for.

Room for the people we love.

Room for ordinary evenings.

Room for traditions.

Room for those traditions to change.

Room for a bit of quiet.

Room for the crowded kitchen too.

Room for the things we planned.

And room for whatever happens instead.

There will still be lists.

There will still be presents to wrap.

There will still be food to buy and school events and lifts and laundry and things we’ve forgotten.

That’s life.

Christmas doesn’t need to float above it, perfectly styled and untouched.

It can live right in the middle of it.

In the kitchen while dinner is cooking.

In the car on a dark December evening.

In the familiar decorations coming out of their boxes.

In a teenager wandering downstairs looking for food.

In somebody calling in unexpectedly.

In tea beside the tree when the house has finally gone quiet.

In the Christmas Eve dinner you’ve made for years.

In the things you choose not to do.

We don’t need to squeeze more Christmas into December.

We need enough room to notice the Christmas that’s already there.

And perhaps that is slow Christmas after all.

Chat soon,

Ciara x

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