A Slow Summer in Real Life: Creating Realistic Summer Rhythms That Actually Work

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There’s something about summer that makes us want to do everything. The light lingers longer, the calendar fills faster, and somewhere in between the sunscreen and school holidays, we start to feel like we should be seizing every second.

But what if this summer didn’t need to be maximised or perfected? What if it didn’t need to be packed full of activities or styled like an Instagram grid?

What if it could be slower—even in the middle of real life?

This isn’t about disappearing off-grid or building a homestead. It’s about anchoring ourselves in small, meaningful rhythms that help us feel more present, less rushed, and a little more ourselves.

At Our Little House in the Country, everything I share is rooted in the real world—busy lives, imperfect days, and good intentions. These rhythms aren’t about changing everything; they’re about softening the edges of the life we already live.

What Do We Mean by ‘Rhythm’?

A rhythm is not a rigid routine. It’s not a colour-coded schedule or something pinned to the fridge.

A rhythm is more like a gentle flow—a pattern that gives shape to your day without boxing it in. It creates touchpoints of calm and consistency that help us move through the day with more ease.

Think:

Morning coffee in silence
A walk after lunch
A quiet moment while tidying before bed

These little rituals aren’t fancy or forced. They’re familiar, flexible, and grounding. They give your day a heartbeat.

1. Redefining Slow Living in a Busy Household

Slow living doesn’t mean having nothing to do. It means creating breathing space within what we already do.

It means:

Noticing the way the light hits the kitchen sink while the kettle boils
Taking a breath before answering a question for the fifth time
Choosing presence—even when it’s noisy or messy

In our home, slow living isn’t a perfect aesthetic. It’s a mindset. A decision to step away from autopilot. And it’s available to us—even when the schedule is full.

2. Establishing Flexible Rhythms (Not Rigid Routines)

Rather than trying to create the perfect summer schedule, we’ve started to build in flexible anchors. Gentle rhythms that give shape to the day without boxing us in.

A few things working for us this year:

Mornings with one calm moment: coffee on the step, a quiet journal entry, or just five minutes with the door open
Midday resets: a walk around the garden, reading a chapter, a stretch or lie-down while the kids have screen time
Evening rituals: lighting a candle after dinner, a simple tidy-up playlist, or watching the sky change colour

These rhythms change with the week. That’s the point—they bend with life instead of breaking under it.

3. Letting Go of the “Perfect Summer” Ideal

We’re not doing a summer bucket list. We’re not trying to keep up with anyone else’s idea of fun.

There are no matching outfits or themed days here—just a lot of sunscreen, toast dinners, and last-minute decisions to eat outside.

The more I let go of perfect, the more room I have for good. For spontaneous chats in the garden. For mismatched picnics. For ice cream before dinner.

4. Embracing Nature in Everyday Ways

You don’t need a forest or a big garden to connect with nature this summer. Some of our favourite outdoor moments happen in five-minute windows:

Watering a single pot of herbs
Reading at the patio table while the kids play
Watching the swallows loop through the sky after dinner

The trick isn’t to go outside. It’s to notice when you’re already there.

5. Saying No (So We Can Say Yes to What Matters)

We’re choosing fewer plans—and more peace. That means saying no to:

Overpacked weekends
Every invitation
The guilt that creeps in when we choose quiet over busy

What we’re saying yes to instead:

Rest
Play
People we actually want to see
Time to just be

6. Keeping Meals Easy and Mood-Boosting

Slow living shows up in the kitchen too. We’re not cooking from scratch every night. But we’re trying to:

Eat together when we can
Make lunch feel like a break, not a scramble
Enjoy the season’s little treats (hello, strawberries and cream!)

Summer food can be beautiful in its simplicity. Toast and tomatoes. Pasta and parmesan. A tray of bits and pieces eaten barefoot on the grass.

7. Choosing Connection Over Perfection

A tidy home, a to-do list ticked, a productive day—they’re all lovely. But this summer, I’m learning to measure the day differently.

By how many laughs we shared.
By whether I looked someone in the eye instead of at my phone.
By whether I noticed the evening light.

Connection over perfection. Every time.

Sample Rhythms for Real Life

Here are a few gentle rhythm ideas for different types of households and summer days:

For Families with Younger Children

Morning basket time: books, crayons, soft music
Midday outside play, even if it’s just 15 minutes
Afternoon rest/quiet time (puzzles, stories, audiobooks)
Early dinner and garden play while the sun sets
Tidy-up and calm-down time with a favourite bedtime playlist

For Families with Teens

Slow breakfast start together
One “together” activity a week (movie night, walk, shared meal)
Flexible screentime boundaries that include outdoor breaks
Evening check-ins with no pressure—just space to chat or be
Letting them help shape their own summer rhythm too

For Busy Women/Mums/Caregivers

Morning cup of tea or coffee before anyone else is up
A 10-minute midmorning reset (walk/stretch/breathe)
Gentle playlist or candle while making lunch or dinner
Five minutes of journaling or gratitude in the evening
Letting one thing stay undone without guilt

For Anyone Feeling Overwhelmed

Anchor to one small thing each day: light a candle, go barefoot outside, open the window
Create one daily pocket of stillness—no phone, no noise
Choose presence over perfection once a day
Celebrate tiny wins—ice water, a book page read, deep breath taken

Free Printable: Your Gentle Summer Rhythm Planner

To help you find your own flow this summer, I’ve created a simple printable you can use to jot down your rhythm. No pressure, no perfection—just space to breathe.

Download your free Gentle Summer Rhythm Planner here

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Closing Reflection

A summer rhythm isn’t a schedule or a set of rules. It’s a gentle hum beneath your days—a pulse you return to when things get loud.

You don’t need to escape your life to enjoy it. You just need to find moments inside it that feel soft, slow, and meaningful.

So here’s to the real summer. The unfiltered one. The one that’s still beautiful in the middle of the mess.

Things Helping Me Live a Little Slower This Summer

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A morning journal that keeps me grounded before the day begins

This book on seasonal living that I’m slowly reading in the evenings

Our favourite garden jug that’s always full of iced lemon water.

Let’s Chat:

What does a summer rhythm look like in your house this year?
Leave a comment below, or join the chat over on Instagram @ourlittlehouseinthecountry. I’d love to hear how you’re finding space to slow down.

Chat soon,

Ciara